A few months ago I described the moment at which I discovered a mate of mine from one of my distinctly blokeish circles of friends was experiencing similar gender issues to my own. Last night A and I finally encountered each other in girl form, rather than the usual grubby outdoor blokes we normally see each other as.
Nothing special, just an evening at a friend's house eating Italian food and watching films, but after several months it was good to see her out in the open. I think she makes a better job of it than I do, but isn't that always the way. She's a little more closeted than I am here in our home town so had taken a little persuading, I hope she enjoyed herself.
I've heard it said before that transgendered people seem to share a surprising number of interests. I read a piece recently from April about how a lot of us have obsessive interests in common as an attempt to divert ourselves from our gender issues, and A and I are no exception. We share a couple of the stereotypical interests for British t-girls, and each independently have a couple of the others.
I can't help casting a speculative eye around the rest of the techies, geeks, adrenaline junkies and petrolheads with whom I spend the occasional weekend day of little interest to my wife, and thinking "OK then, who else of you do I have this in common with?". I'm sure A and I aren't the only ones. Time will tell I guess, as I edge more out into the open.