tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post3546096741129557764..comments2023-12-10T08:09:17.786+00:00Comments on Large blooming flower: Advice to a young personJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-33789130746005215122012-06-13T18:38:31.532+01:002012-06-13T18:38:31.532+01:00Well done, Jenny.Well done, Jenny.Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-11359622407337029062012-06-13T08:16:11.267+01:002012-06-13T08:16:11.267+01:00Morning all, and thanks for your comments.
Diffic...Morning all, and thanks for your comments.<br /><br />Difficult thing to write. TBH it's more than just a legal thing, I don't think a bunch of grown-ups are best able to help a young person through all this without specialist experience.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-11211956179349905412012-06-13T07:51:17.969+01:002012-06-13T07:51:17.969+01:00Covered all the bases and did it clearly and cheer...Covered all the bases and did it clearly and cheerfully. Good show!<br />We're having a Newt Aid concert here next week, Newt Ransitioner. For a new pond. Thought you'd appreciate that https://www.facebook.com/events/227817117335249/Dru Marlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03697874363783821382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-54904686697908472752012-06-13T00:20:10.731+01:002012-06-13T00:20:10.731+01:00very good advice, right on!!very good advice, right on!!Kay & Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244257765709660605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-14804257362979796452012-06-12T21:20:24.743+01:002012-06-12T21:20:24.743+01:00If only the poor thing knew who they were seeking ...If only the poor thing knew who they were seeking "help" from huh! but you handled it well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-50339031591783035372012-06-12T19:16:24.686+01:002012-06-12T19:16:24.686+01:00An excellent and responsible reply Jenny. Well don...An excellent and responsible reply Jenny. Well done. xxLisa Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03664740486079007977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-78882270112423994012012-06-12T14:40:08.297+01:002012-06-12T14:40:08.297+01:00My first thought when I started reading this was t...My first thought when I started reading this was that I would have been devastated to be turned down . . . assuming, of course, there had been such a thing as your mailing list when I was young. I remember desperately searching not just for support, but confirmation or validation that I wasn't alone . . . and that there were other real human beings behind the trans* label (not just badly scanned shemale JPGs).<br /><br />Having read your response all the way through, however, especially with the options you offered at the end, I think you did a fantastic job of handling it. Your point #2 about there being "as many routes through all this as there are trans people" is probably the strongest message I would have taken from such a response. I remember being so caught up in what I thought was an absolute hard-line transition, stressing and obsessing over whether I could ever be ready for surgery, that I never imagined it was OK to be comfortable somewhere else along the gender spectrum.<br /><br />About the only other thing I might have done is recommend a few trans themed memoirs, biographies, or guides to help provide some offline support, but then again I'm much more book obsessed than most. :)<br /><br />Good for you, Jenny! Very thoughtful and very well said.Sally Bibraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10380766673885084474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-73332977174645102932012-06-12T10:13:47.209+01:002012-06-12T10:13:47.209+01:00What Paula said times ten!
When many of us were y...What Paula said times ten!<br /><br />When many of us were young there was as close to nothing available to even confirm that were were not the only ones on the planet with this problem let alone any help or advice. The medical treatment was as likely to have been "Electro convulsive therapy" more likely than not. Positive help was as likely as a lottery win, there was no lottery back then!<br /><br />I wish your correspondent all the luck they deserve and a happy life to come.<br /><br />Sadly in the UK we still fail to help he young early enough to make transitions unaffected by incorrect puberty. This is a criminal shame on the medical fraternity.<br /><br />Far from perfect, our present channels of help are beyond the wildest dreams we had ourselves when young an a full and happy life lies ahead for those brave enough to step forward and ask for help.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-14806209200143335392012-06-12T10:05:18.767+01:002012-06-12T10:05:18.767+01:00Very sensible advice Jenny and very wise to be cau...Very sensible advice Jenny and very wise to be cautious too. Pointing someone in the right direction is oh so important, as you say, we didn't have the same potential support when we were young. As adults we can take steps to control our lives and what goes on in it and if transgendered we can easily find support but for a young person who may be frightened about exposing their feelings, getting the right support is so important. I hope the person in question takes the advice you have so thoughtfully given and that they discover that things are not so bad as they might be thinking.<br /><br />Shirley Anne xShirley Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697497719791327675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-16813669658263700962012-06-12T09:58:17.039+01:002012-06-12T09:58:17.039+01:00Well said, if only I had that sort of contact #* y...Well said, if only I had that sort of contact #* years ago.....Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12577631984995202146noreply@blogger.com