tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post5344489391619417713..comments2023-12-10T08:09:17.786+00:00Comments on Large blooming flower: FFS? FFS!Jennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-42662344116094417122011-10-13T08:02:53.009+01:002011-10-13T08:02:53.009+01:00I guess the post was prompted my concern after see...I guess the post was prompted my concern after seeing people fixating on FFS as a panacea, often going for it far too early, and emerging sometimes as obvious recipients of surgery.<br /><br />My worry from your comment is the idea of the "master in his field". Of course some FFS surgeons are better than others. I know someone who went to such a master and returned looking breathtaking. Unfortunately I also know someone who returned from the same surgeon with the stretched-tight look.<br /><br />I understand the compulsion to fix everything, but I worry about the consequences.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-71460840508521343372011-10-12T19:47:50.904+01:002011-10-12T19:47:50.904+01:00This is an interesting post, Jenny. I have often ...This is an interesting post, Jenny. I have often said that I rarely will dress, en femme, because I consider it worthless to cover a male body with female clothing. It's what's under the clothing that needs to be corrected.<br /><br />Those few times, however, that I have done the "head-to-toe" thing, I just see a male in the mirror and that, frankly, is very depressing for me. <br /><br />FFS has not been bad for those I know. No disasters but, for most, the changes have been subtle albeit in a positive way. I can think of one exception which was quite dramatic with the work performed by a master in his field.<br /><br />While I absolutely see where you're going with this post, I do feel that FFS would be in the cards for me but I'd spare no expense to insure that the right surgeon does the job. I would need this for me...to change what I see in the mirror.Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-30540795705824111092011-10-09T18:39:52.768+01:002011-10-09T18:39:52.768+01:00Where did I see the line "Blessed are the cra...Where did I see the line "Blessed are the cracked, for they let in ligh"? Probably on something unbearably twee :)<br /><br />True, we share any dissatisfaction with our appearance with 100% of natal women.<br /><br />If I was truthful, I've had moments when I've wished I could have a magic fix to see the perfect girl in the mirror too. But fortunately they passed. The imperfect girl sometimes stares back. She may look like a badger's arse, but at least it's a <i>female</i> badger's arse! :)Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-89244213046728581642011-10-05T08:00:59.398+01:002011-10-05T08:00:59.398+01:00I don't think having surgery to correct a *per...I don't think having surgery to correct a *perceived* problem is restricted to men who would like to pass easily as women. You are right - there is a huge variety of women's faces out there and they all flag 'female', even though many have, as you say, features that look masculine. So much is in the way they carry themselves, their behaviour and yes, the smile.Penny Clarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00315591810237504099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-47700902636427679932011-10-04T14:41:15.580+01:002011-10-04T14:41:15.580+01:00Dru, I think your picture is wonderful....LOL but ...Dru, I think your picture is wonderful....LOL but no doubt the real you is better.<br />Kathryn, I went to that link but was told that it doesn't exsist. I would love to read the poem.<br />This subject came up while I was in Thailand for GRS back in 2002 and I wrote a short poem about it just after my return home<br /><br />Mirror, mirror on the wall<br />How is it that you’re there at all?<br />You only show what you can see<br />And never see the inner me<br />And what you show is never bright<br />The left is always on the right<br />O Mirror it is all a riddle<br />What you show is superficial<br /> <br />Copyright Shirley Anne 30 Nov 2002<br /><br />But you are so right Jenny. I have seen what some girls are prepared to go through because they think they need it. OK some might need their chins reshaping a little or their trachia shaved or their noses adjusted but most do not need that sort of surgery. The only people who profit from all this are the surgeons methinks.<br />By the way, all the mirrors in my house are cracked....LOL....just like me.<br /><br />Shirley Anne xxxShirley Annehttp://www.minkyweasel.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-80649403002006760242011-10-04T11:55:59.744+01:002011-10-04T11:55:59.744+01:00"She did it, I'm told, because she still ..."She did it, I'm told, because she still imagined the bloke in the mirror."<br /><br />This is such an important observation. I am luck to have managed to cross this bridge unscathed. <br /><br />In 2002 I wrote a poem about the mirror which you can find here http://kathryn-martin.blogspot.com/2011/01/tis-mirror.html. <br /><br />Thanks for this post.Kathryn Dumkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054997856180869508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834395892091327520.post-34846050870803181522011-10-04T08:22:17.380+01:002011-10-04T08:22:17.380+01:00It cold be that some of our greatest assets are th...It cold be that some of our greatest assets are the ones we find hardest to accept. A trans woman I know has a perfectly good female voice- pitch, register, modulation, the lot. But since it was how she spoke pre-transition, she hears a bloke voice.<br />I used to think that I ought to have facial surgery; it seemed a good idea... I listened to my v young advisor, who was quite adamant that I was being silly. Self-acceptance just takes time, and sometimes we can be in a big hurry.Dru Marlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03697874363783821382noreply@blogger.com